Walking the Road Together
The road is perilous; the journey is long – sharing stories helps us to know we are not alone. We can heal and eventually we will emerge from our cocoons – strong in the broken places, transformed and walking once more in the light. The stories of others who have safely made the passage can provide hope and comfort for us.
We are excited to welcome our regular bloggers to the new site. Each blogger is widowed and has been a Grief Project participant.
Each blogger is in a different place in their grief journey – some widowed after long term marriages while others are unmarried widows – they all bring their unique perspective to share. Some of these bloggers are still in the early years of widowhood while others have walked a long road to healing. If you are interested in sharing your perspective or learning more about becoming a TGP blogger, please email firstname.lastname@example.org.
They will blog regularly, sharing their challenges, healing, and perspectives on their journey of loss and transformation. We invite you to meet our bloggers:
Debbie Evert was born and raised in Wichita, KS. Eventually life took her to Colorado Springs, CO, where she met and married Mike Evert. They enjoyed 4-1/2 years together (3-1/2 married). He died of complications from bacterial pneumonia January 18, 2008. Debbie and her chocolate Lab Cocoa moved back to Wichita February 2015 to be closer to her aging parents and other family members.
She is a writer and does background research for an animal rescue group. Her passion is making personalized products through her business Personalized Tales.
Heather Hayden Wittman holds a BA in Art History from the University of Colorado. In 2002 she received the diagnosis of a meningioma brain tumor. The tumor was surgically resected, and life seemed good! Just two short years later her husband of almost 20 years died unexpectedly and she entered the world of widowhood. Her favorite quote for this half of her life is one by Edwin Louis Cole, “you don’t drown by falling in the water; you drown by staying there.” After healing from the brain surgery, and healing enough to hold her head up in the water after her husband’s untimely death, and all the secondary losses attached thereto, she decided to do something different. She became certified to teach Journal Therapy through the Center for Journal Therapy in Wheat Ridge, Colorado. Since that time she has facilitated journal therapy for The Grief Project, Minneapolis, Minnesota as well as for Optum Hospice, Colorado Springs, Colorado. Life is a journey of lightness and darkness, the thread is intertwined, and through the act of journaling you can bring new perspectives, personal insights, and explorations of mind, body and spirit.
By: Heather A. Wittman, Wildflower Women I dedicate this piece to my son, who begins his second pilgrimage on The Frances Way of the Camino de Santiago beginning May 1, 2016. Some years ago a filmmaker friend recommended I watch a movie called The Way. Initially, the recommendation was forgotten and time moved forward. [...]
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I’ve been a widow for almost eight years and two months. Those first days, weeks and months were rough. It’s like I was speaking a foreign language that no one else spoke, or even understood. I didn’t even understand it. Of course I don’t mean that literally, but early on, I needed to find someone [...]
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